How can you benefit from
the Psychology of Sex?
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From the desk of Claire Carter Haskins
For Women Only |Increasing the Frequency and Strength of Your Orgasms
Although certain positions or techniques are certainly helpful, make no mistake: a major part of what makes a woman climax has to do with the biggest sexual organ of all--your mind. The fact is, if your mind, as well as your body, isn't prepared for the experience, you'll generally have difficulty in achieving an orgasm, no matter how much stimulation you apply.
Some women, especially if you came of age in the 1940s, 50s, and early 60s, grew up being told that enjoying sex was a negative thing and something to be suppressed and to feel guilty about. After all, the common wisdom of that time suggested, nice girls just didn't enjoy sex. They simply performed their wifely duty by letting their husbands relieve their nasty sexual urges through the act of intercourse. Such a lifetime of sexual suppression and guilt can take its toll, and even if you've since been sexually liberated, some of that mental negativity is bound to continue to lurk beneath the surface of your conscious mind.
That's why becoming relaxed, open, and receptive can help greatly in achieving a satisfying climax. Sex is one of the most natural things human beings do, and being a human being yourself, you have every bit as much right to enjoy the experience as your partner. In fact, most men don't think they've actually had sex until they climax, and you have the right to feel the same way.
Another reason some women have trouble climaxing is because they've been taught to be unselfish, and in some perverse way, they feel as if it's selfish to enjoy something as intensely pleasurable as an orgasm. That's not true, but it's a difficult mindset to let go of. It's not selfish to climax. In fact, most men are happiest with their sex lives when they know they've also satisfied their partners, so by allowing yourself to experience an orgasm, you're actually giving a gift to your man.
Don't be afraid to close your eyes and allow yourself to fantasize. Research has shown that fantasy can play a huge part in bringing about an orgasm and in making the strength of your climax even more powerful. Combining the images in your mind and the loving manipulations of your partner can greatly increase the frequency and power of your orgasms.
If you find yourself worrying about whether or not your partner will be turned off by your increased sexual awareness, you can put that worry to rest. Studies have continually shown that men list female passivity as the number one complaint during sexual encounters, so your man will actually appreciate the fact that you're more involved in one of life's most beautiful and intense experiences. If you're insecure about your body, you can also set that worry aside, because men are much more interested in what you can do and how much interest you take in the activity than what you look like.
There are many things you can do to increase your number of orgasms and their strength, but the key is to examine your inhibitions, explore your body, relax, and just let go. To really do this, stimulate all your senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch. Five Keys to Sexual Pleasure
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